Healthy and effective communication is key to happy relationships. I teach interpersonal communication and conflict resolution classes and I know the positive impact communication can have. But what about the relationships that just refuse to improve? That no matter how many communication skills are learned, progress just isn’t made? Some relationships are so entrenched in destructive […]
Signs of a Destructive Relationship: Not Respecting Boundaries
Anyone who has read my blog for very long, knows that I think healthy boundaries are critical to a happy relationship. But, what if your partner won’t respect your boundaries? What if you asked for what you need, and your boundary is ignored, dismissed or worse, judged sinful or wrong? What do you do then? […]
Risky Business: Emotional Intimacy in Marriage Part II
Do you ever find yourself feeling alone even when you’re surrounded by people? Do you feel like you’re doing life by yourself, even though you’re married? Even couples who have been together a long time, might still complain that they just don’t feel that close. The missing ingredient is INTIMACY. If you are single or […]
Emotional Intimacy in Marriage: Do you have it?
Have any of you struggled with intimacy in your relationships? (Why did the guys suddenly get more interested?) Maybe you wonder if you lack in emotional or sexual compatibility? Maybe you carry around a lot of pain due to being hurt by someone you trusted. True Intimacy is being seen, known and unconditionally loved. It is the […]
How to Set Boundaries with an Angry Person: Part 2
You know you need to say something. You know that what they’re doing isn’t right or respectful. But speaking up to an angry person can be intimidating. You don’t know how he/she may react. You don’t want to make things worse. But, you also know you can’t keep going on the same way. Last week, […]
How to Survive Heart Break
What should you do if you feel you’ve done all you can do, but he/she still isn’t working on the marriage? What should you do when you are getting healthy, but he/she doesn’t admit need for improvement? When two married people are walking in different directions, or worse, one is setting land minds for the […]